Saturday, March 18, 2006

should consentual sex with a minor mean your a sex offender?

my girl friend and i were to get married. we had perental permission and such, however since she was under age and i was 20 the state of oregon charged and convicted me for rape. what a bad rap i got! now i have to be a registered sex offender and go to group counseling with a bunch of child molesters and people that actually forced others for sex. its not fair! they also dont allow me to be around any minor children, even family? i agree with how strict the probation rules are for child molesters and people that actualy raped someone, however to charge me and many others with rape even though it was consentual and with parent consent is ludicris! now the whole world see's that im a registered sex ofender and all kinds of thoughts go through their head. there are hundreds of people in every comunity that are going through the same thing, and i dont think that the law makers will ever change they way they charge people when it comes to statutory rape. by the way when you get busted for statutory rape the charge is not statutory rape, the charge is rape! to me and hopfully you to rape means "by force or without consent" so from now on when you think of registered sex offenders please remember that not all registered sex offenders are preditors, infact less than half of them in the united states are actually preditorial sex offenders, the laws just dont differ between the different kind of offenses. a registered sex offender could be someone who just made a sexual comment to a guy or girl in the work place (which i dont condone those actions) however to label them a sex offender along with the sick'os is not right and it ruins that persons whole life. i was with my girl friend for 4 years and was almost married to her, our relationship was an awsome one, and there was nothing sick about it, but now i am look at as if i did something sick, and im stuck with it for the rest of my life. no body will hire a sex offender and people dont trust a sex offender, wich is good but not if they are going to call people like me sex offenders! i would not and have never even thought about forcing sex on anyone espeacially a child, but i have been permanently labeled as otherwise? i would love to here your comments on this subject and i would be happy to answer any questions regarding my case or others.